Be likable and thus a desirable person stop trying to be popular

In this article you will learn the following

- 90+ ways and tips on how to be likable and desirable and attractive to others [given randomly] — all the single sentence preaching like suggestions have full detailed do it yourself tips in both of our websites with 900+ articles — a sample list is given in the end of this article

How to become likable and desirable

Before we proceed — please be clear — about the distinction between — being likable and being popular.

The degree of your likability — decides the degree of your magnetism and attraction in the eyes of others.

You become likable when you work on yourself to imbibe healthy traits-habits-attitude and live a life being authentically truly genuinely you.

Your likability quotient increases when — you are working on yourself to strengthen your niche qualities and pursuing your larger than life goals — BUT — you are not bothered about what others think of you.

Likability is definitely not about your looks, neither it is about your qualifications, or your talents or your knowledge nor certainly not about how smart and intelligent you are.

Whereas having focus on being popular is self-destructive and self-harming — as it gets triggered from your emotional and other insecurities.

And when you have a compelling need to be popular — then your entire existence is focused on getting noticed by others, seeking their validation-approval-recognition of you all the time.

When you want to be popular at any cost — you start creating and projecting a false image through trying to please others using insincere and unhealthy methods.

Likability is a social skill — and all those who mastered this art and science of likability — would have meaningful relationships, help when they seek and need, growth and success of significantly high levels and degrees.

Truly self-assured people and most genuinely confident people are often nicer, friendly and polite.

Why we need to be likable — for this basic fact — that almost everyone — would do business-with, buy-from and have deeper relationship with — those whom they like [assuming other parameters are equal].

In organizations — managers tend to choose likable people to include in their teams.

In many situations — all of us need to not only create strong, positive and powerful first-impression but also maintain this positive impressions consistently.

Likability in the right context — is one of the most powerful tool — which can open up avenues of opportunities for you in every aspect of your life — be it your career or profession or relationships or getting support and help of others.

When you are likable — you would also attract other highly positive, enthusiastic and energetic people in your life.

Likable people are fun to be-around and work-with, make you feel relaxed — plus — they praise others, give credit to others and enjoy other people’s successes and happiness and help others become better.

Unlikable people are irritating — they create stress and can make people defensive and on the edge.

In organizations — managers tend to pick likable people for team projects.

People love to do business with the people they like [in case other parameters are equal].

90+ ways and tips on how to be likable and desirable and attractive to others [given randomly] — all the single sentence preaching like suggestions have full detailed do it yourself tips in both of our websites with 900+ articles — a sample list is given in the end of this article

• 1.Fearlessness and bravery when you feel like doing something is cool
• 2.Do things that would embarrass and scare most other people AND you feel like doing it — like — sing in your natural screeching or shrill voice[when you feel like], admit your blunders, dance even if you don’t know how to — off-course not to annoy and irritate others
• 3.When you are completely free and comfortable being yourself and explore your wants, goals and pursuits without any fear, concern or inhibitions — it can only enhance your desirability
• 4.Pay attention to how you dress and groom yourself — it has to subtly sophisticated
• 5.Turn your biggest flaw into a centerpiece by owing your flaw.
• 6.When you transform your biggest flaw into a strength of your persona — you tell the world you’re unafraid to show the real you — that kind of confidence is irresistible.
• 7.Stop judging others
• 8.Stop comparing yourself with others
• 9.Make others feel comfortable and safe enough to open themselves up with you
• 10. Never worry about what will others think — be yourself — do what you love to do
• 11. Learn to be calm in those situation where it is most difficult to do so — this single quality can gain you a large number of admirers
• 12. Be vulnerable — never feel afraid to show and accept your weaknesses and mistakes
• 13. Know your weaknesses and work on those which creates obstacles in your life
• 14. Learn to be humble — never flaunt and show-off — your possessions, success, power, position and knowledge or your smartness
• 15. Showing-off instead of impressing others — may make you look insecure and immature
• 16. Humility on the other hand communicates to others your extraordinary high levels of self-confidence and earns you the respect from others
• 17. Stop being predictable — be tough to figure out — mystery and an element of veiled-suspense enhances curiosity and makes you attractive and desirable
• 18. Don’t show your desperation and needs — even if it is of utmost importance to you
• 19. Stop making fuss about others trying to please them and putting too much efforts to make them like you — no one likes a desperate man or woman
• 20. You need to strive to be the best version of yourself
• 21. Being attractive and having a great sex-appeal is not about your physical appearance — it has more to do with your aura, your confidence, your composure and how you carry yourself in the different scenarios with ease
• 22. Pay attention to your etiquettes, manners, enthusiasm and energy
• 23. Become a classy, sassy, sophisticated, elegant man or woman
• 24. Create power through developing humor and ability to make others laugh
• 25. Be valuable by creating value for yourself as well as others Learn to manage your frustrations, anger, disappointments, hurts, rejections and criticism
• 26. Learn to manage your stress
• 27. Become a great problem-solver — your problems and also for others
• 28. Learn to let go of your regrets, shames and failures — stop letting these past spoil your present and kill your future
• 29. Learn to ignore the unnecessary comments, insults, put-downs — life is too short and these are too insignificant to make you live a life full of agitation and anger
• 30. Live your core-values — being fully yourself
• 31. Have clear distinctions about what is negotiable and what is not negotiable to you
• 32. Create and enforce healthy personal boundaries
• 33. Be polite and respectful to others
• 34. Stand up for something worthy
• 35. Learn to be honest, straightforward and genuine
• 36. Be a good listener and show empathy
• 37. Shower others with sincere appreciation and give credit to others for their efforts and contribution
• 38. Learn to compliment others when they have done something significant
• 39. Be reliable, bankable and trustable and be a person people can count on
• 40. Care for yourself -Know, accept and love yourself unconditionally
• 41. Be warm and friendly — Give people your undivided attention
• 42. Create special way of smiling — learn to smile strategically
• 43. Honor your promises — commit less deliver more
• 44. Learn to ask stupid, tough and open-ended questions
• 45. Be generous
• 46. Be aware of how you are presenting yourself to others and do your best to develop an open, friendly demeanor
• 47. Listen first, listen more — understand and then speak — don’t be in a rush to make your point
• 48. When you say something ensure that it add value and only where it counts
• 49. Act as if the person you are speaking with is the most important person in the world
• 50. Stop trying to get into the spotlight and limelight — work on your instinct to get attention as you would miss many opportunities
• 51. Understand the importance of bringing others into the conversation and pulling a quieter person out of their shell
• 52. Look for ways to include others in the conversation
• 53. Ditch your mobiles and digital devices and focus on who’s in front of you
• 54. Instead of spending time on social media- mingle with people in real time
• 55. Be seen as approachable and personable and open-minded
• 56. And willing to talk to and listen to many different types of people. They avoid having preconceived notions or passing judgment on others, but are willing to hear others out and get different points of view.
• 57. You are going to meet many people every day — you may not agree with
• 58. Understand that you don’t have to express every thought or feeling that comes into your head
• 59. Assume everyone has something to teach you — ask for their suggestions and advice
• 60. Start expressing yourself and stop trying to impress.
• 61. Never downplay your successes and accomplishments
• 62. Stop complaining and whining
• 63. Follow up and inquire about meaningful issues or events in others’ lives
• 64. Stop dominating the conversation
• 65. Express enthusiasm when meeting people
• 66. Be inquisitive, curious and eager to learn
• 67. Make discipline your nature
• 68. Learn how to connect and network
• 69. Don’t give unsolicited advice
• 70. Don’t make comparisons
• 71. Take responsibility and be accountable
• 72. Move into deeper meaningful conversations from just small talks
• 73. Touch, motivate and inspire others
• 74. Ask interesting and funny questions
• 75. Learn to create good first impression
• 76. Choose every opportunity to experience joy
• 77. Focus on making a positive difference — have a burning desire to build, establish and grow what you do and your work into meaningfully significant
• 78. Value your support system — keep nurturing the people who are your genuine well-wishers
• 79. Ignore the quick-fix-get-rich distractions and commit to their own unique journey and vision
• 80. Become risk taker and learner
• 81. Have a strategy for your big goals
• 82. Wear clothes that fit well and accentuate your best physical traits
• 83. Choose clothing that reflects how you want to be desired
• 84. Maintain a cheerful expression
• 85. Exercise regularly to look and feel great about yourself
• 86. Maintain good posture to look your best in any situation
• 87. Be passionate about something and learn so much that you become a master
• 88. Work on projecting a positive vibe
• 89. Accept that it is impossible to get everyone to like you
• 90. Urge to fake and project a false image can be disastrous — as others are only momentarily impressed by your superficial show
• 91. Learn to manage and control your insecurities
• 92. Stand up for your beliefs without preaching them
• 93. To be liked you need to build a powerful persona — this comes from having personality is having beliefs, opinions, and standards- Express those.
• 94. You must realize, and internalize, that attraction happens from the inside out.
• 95. Stop asking — how can i impress others and start asking how can you make yourself feel proud
• 96. You must practice accepting all parts of yourself, including your insecurities.
• 97. Learn to say NO — often — to all low value insignificant issues and things

Please also read my other articles related with this topic — this is only a sample list you will find 900+ blogs for your self-development in both of my websites

• 1.Don’t try to be popular be respectable
• 2.Ways to make Great first Impressions
• 3.How to Be Elegant
• 4.How to Believe in Yourself Again
• 5.How to Build Value
• 6.Why we are our own worst enemy
• 7.Create Lasting and Powerful Impression in Your Job Interview
• 8.Discovering Your Unique Strengths and Minimizing Weaknesses
• 9.Acquire massive advantages by being honest with yourself
• 10.How to add value to yourself by becoming valuable
• 11.80 ways to raise your personal standards and benchmarks
• 12.How to break free from mediocrity and accomplish big
• 13.How to stop worrying about others and focus on yourself

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Originally published at https://successunlimited-mantra.com on December 9, 2021.