Build Value Stay in Demand

Have you ever wondered WHY some people for the same position get enviable high remuneration packages than their peers [who may have similar qualifications and experience].

OR some products, brands, organizations command premium prices, awareness and demand.

In cases of relationships too — you may notice some very ordinary looking person having very-very attractive partners.

All These happens due to the value they bring to the stakeholders OR because of the perception of giving more value [off-course to create this perception — very hard strategic planning and actions are needed backed with solid performance].

Your SUCCESS pivots ON YOUR ABILITY TO DELIVER VALUE TO OTHER PEOPLE.

This is true for everything — from getting a job to getting promotion to getting a global recognition to getting an ideal life partner.

You can’t create wealth unless you master some skills that makes you unique — and which others need badly-enough to pay you for it.

You have to acquire these capabilities and create the impression of being valuable to your target-audience — much before others realize that they need them.

Your Value is always Judged in real time.

But — while you are being evaluated, you don’t get any say in that interpretation.

Yet, the outcome could change the rest of your life — depending on where, who and for what you are being appraised.

That is why before you are being assessed — your value should be established in measurable terms.

We can’t feel blissed and blessed without becoming valuable to others — which only can happen through building value for ourselves.

The real opportunity to thrive and create a niche for yourself lies between being invaluable and being of no use.

And in between those two extremes lies a world of opportunity. A chance for you to carve out a unique space where you thrive.

Yet, Most of the people spend their life — doing everything — just so that OTHERS Value Them, Respect them, appreciate them, accept them etc etc.

This article is about — how to Shift from wanting to be valued to being valuable.

When we are focused on creating value for others — we are on a sustainable winning path ON THE OTHER HAND — wanting to be valued is always full of pain, rejections, frustrations, heart-burn and so on.

Being able to add unparalleled value to others makes you invaluable — which is brilliant — as the outcome/consequences/end-results — of these would be grudging admiration, respect and recognition automatically.

The trick is to be RESPECTABLE* and Valuable — not likable.

This is actually basic common-sense* -The Individuals whose lives are driven by the need to be valued by others create their lives filled with — emotional instability, constant worry about what others think about them, lack of control over their emotions, dependency on others to feel happy, and a tendency to personalize other people’s gestures as being that of disapproval, suspicion etc

When we are into the vicious cycle of “only when others value me — I can feel valuable and worthwhile” — it is a suicidal thinking process — that almost always leads to giving huge power to circumstances and people — in turn making you lose complete control of your life.

Additional pitfall is that — You become overly critical of others, start blaming others for their own feelings and circumstances and to start controlling people, engage in mind reading other’s, creating meaning which probably is not their to the actions of others and jump to assumptions about what other people might be having about them.

Frankly no-one gives a damn about you — as they are busy in their own world full of challenges — to be bothered about you or thinking about you.

Having a mindset of “What would other think of me or say” — is like investing in those market stocks [which don’t have any chance of recovering ever especially when the stock-market is crashing during recession]– and feeling miserable.

This negative spiral — can be altered by asking the question — how can I add maximum positive value and how do I make impactful positive difference to others, e.g. to my family, to my work, to my organization, to my community, to my country, to humanity [but it can’t happen instantly as it would take lots of time, consistency* and practice].

Everyone wants to feel cared about. We want to feel that we matter We want the people close to us to acknowledge our needs and feelings, we want our employer to recognize our efforts and the value we add through our work — It’s part of our nature as social beings.

The Value of Being Valued — these are few what would happen — when You Have Become a Person of Value

1. People look for you seeking your expertise

2. People appreciate your presence

3. Others give you their full attention

4. People seek your advice

5. People talk about you in a positive way mentioning the problems you solved or helped them solve

6. People recommend you

7. People want to partner with you

8. People are willing to pay much higher for your capabilities

Things That does not define Your Self-Worth

1. Your Job

2. Your Social Media Following

3. Your Age

4. Your Appearance

5. Comparison* with Other People

6. Your Grades

7. The Number of acquaintances you have

8. Your Relationship Status

9. The Money

10. The social status

11. The position

12. Your Likes

13. Your weaknesses

14. Your past mistakes

15. Your failures

How to be valuable and build value for yourself

There is no easy, automatic formula to being valuable — But to start there is a question that has to be asked on consistent basis — What am I have Do, Change, Learn, Be => to make myself so valuable others have no choice but to help me accomplish massive success.

96+ Simple do it yourself tips — throughout this article — all *marked ones have my DIY blogs on that topic in Success Unlimited Mantra Blog Section — From the Heart of Subhashis

1. Understand and accept that — Our worth and value is not variable, or dependent on other people’s opinions, approval

2. Understanding that our value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see our worth

3. Understanding that it is within our control to set our value as high as we want — because We need to recognize that our potential is nearly unlimited — This may not mean that we all can be the Einstein the Ball Gates — but that with focus, determination and constructive actions — we all can expand in almost any possible way we choose

4. We have to consciously and sub-consciously shift our attention and energy to — how can I be valuable to others and the circumstances around me — FROM — the hopeless hollow of how can I be admired by others

5. We need to practice thinking and being Humble accountable and vulnerable*

6. We need to accept ourselves fully with our weaknesses and strengths

7. We should be free from all inhibitions* in asking for help from others

8. We need to learn how to Be calm*

9. Practicing to be a true professional *

10. Developing a Classy* Personality and learning to being graceful

11. Developing the sense of humor* [even when things are falling apart — by accepting the passage of tough time — and being able to laugh at ourselves] — for full read How to Build Value in Success Unlimited Mantra — https://successunlimited-mantra.com/index.php/blog/how-to-build-value