Learn to Handle Your Life’s Little[ah Big] Irritants
Irritation is the natural reaction to anything in our life which we do not like to face.
No one can avoid irritants in life, simply because controlling our mood, our surroundings, other people’s action and behavior is beyond normal human nature.
Irritation is feeling frustrated due to a particular situation — but it is not anger.
Generally, it leaves us feeling stressed and can generate the feeling of being powerless or undervalued.
Irritation if not handled properly will invariably leads to anger, agitation and maybe all other negative emotions and moods.
And surprisingly — our own Physical, Mental and Emotional Fatigue Along with OUR REALIZATION OF OUR OWN LIMITATIONS and FEAR OF Future may cause Impatience — which is the major trigger of irritations.
While facing an unwanted and undesired situation — loss of patience* makes us annoyed and cranky.
We need to learn to Deal with Minor but Persistent Annoying Behavior of Others in order to be Happy, Peaceful and Successful along with Understanding Others and Forming Meaningful Relationships.
If we are constantly in the state of anxiety, irritation, agitation– then we need immediate Doctors/Psychiatrist’s intervention [especially if we are in this unresourceful state for long period of time AND even after long-gap of post traumatic or distressing event].
Few Examples of Irritating Behaviors of others — — add your own — This can be anything that bothers us often — and eventually, drain our energy and morale
1. Talking loudly on the phone
2. Always interrupting people
3. Being disruptive during meetings etc
4. Leaving it to others to clear away after a meeting
5. Failing to file documents correctly
6. Being persistently late
7. Eating whole making chewing sound loudly
8. Wearing inappropriate clothing
9. Chewing fingernails
Often, these people and their behaviors go unchallenged — But failing to address such issues can leave us feeling helpless, deflated and miserable.
Eventually any little nagging behavior can become a major distraction and builds resentment and anger within us.
How to Dealing with Irritating Behavior in the Workplace
1. Avoid Gossip — stop your urge to vent your frustration about your irritating colleague by complaining about him/her to another co-worker
2. Assess your irritation as it subjective. Therefore, before taking any action — try to look yourself [if that is not possible seek an independent person who is not involved with you or him/her] to look and assess objectively
3. In case this behavior is aggressive or damaging — then certainly you need to take actions through proper channel
4. It is definitely no easy for anyone [especially for me] to keep your emotions in check when we are faced with persistent, irritating behavior => bottling these feelings can have very devastating effect on our moral
5. We need to remember that there is a big difference between annoying behavior and The Person — the behavior is the issue and not the person — in most cases.
6. Then it is also possible that this is unlikely to be aware of the impact his/her behavior causing you.
7. If tempers run high and the atmosphere is charged with tensions seek the help of a mediator [ an impartial colleague] to diffuse the situation.
8. I get provoked and agitated on some issues very fast and by some people.
9. I have also seen that when I am agitated — I do many wrong things, mostly self-harming and sometimes with irreversibly major long-term negative consequence.
We can get irritated because — add your own
1. We are tired
2. We are hungry
3. We are nursing a hangover
4. Have million things rushing around inside our brain
5. When are carrying the weight of the world[at least we feel that we are responsible for everything in this world and for everyone’s actions etc]
6. Few situation
7. Certain difficult people
8. A comment made by a colleague or partner
9. Unexpected expenses or missing our flight or delay
You know that you are agitated — but do-not know what to do and how to control.
60 Techniques of Developing Effective Coping Mechanisms PLUS Managing Your Own Irritating Behavior
1. Learning not to jump to conclusions — Before jumping to conclusions, we have to inculcate the habits of viewing a larger picture behind everything that makes us upset
2. Let go of how people should act and what people should do
3. Set low expectations from others — that is be Assertive when it is what they have to do say n the job -but t don’t expect people to wow you with their manners, their thoughtfulness, their speech.
4. Learn how to react strategically
5. Learning How to Better Manage Your Anger*
6. Practice responding
7. Accept the things you cannot change — there are millions of them about Other People and the Situations
8. Stop trying to please everyone — by unconditionally loving, accepting and respecting ourselves
9. Let go of the feeling that everyone should like you
10. Identify what is bothering you — What is it that letting you go off your handle — Is it something truly annoying or If it is something harmless that annoys you[then in all probability there is an underlying issue that you need to resolve either about the person, or about yourself]
11. Be aware your annoyance can be a problem with you instead of a problem with them — Ask yourself — Is the reason you are annoyed because the other person is behaving in a manner that is you too do and are ashamed of it
12. All of us get frustrated from time-to-time — We can get frustrated by — other people’s laziness, stupidity, inefficiency, show-off, We may also get Irritated by the irrational behavior or acts of others. Other people only press our triggers — WE Ourselves cause our OWN UPSET, frustrations, irritations, anger, agitation etc etc.
13. But when we get irritated or angry — we are actually projecting our own un-met desires. It is not them it is us.
14. Being annoyed can be a sign that we are too comfortable being in our comfort zone* — Try disrupting* your life
15. Avoid Dwelling on Mistakes — for full article click on https://successunlimited-mantra.com/index.php/blog/what-to-do-when-frustrated
