Simple Ways to Break Your Disappointments Frustrations and Upsets

For any situation or person — when we don’t have an effective method to deal with — we may turn to the unresourceful, ineffective and often self-harming techniques, tools or ways — to overcome the feeling-bad emotions.

On the other hand, our ability to deal with small nuisances, irritants and upsets of living life — actually decides how happy, how strong, how successful, how peaceful and how blissful we feel.

This ability has nothing to do with what magnitude of external factors are rattling us — it is our natural response mechanism we have trained/conditioned ourselves to deal with these uncomfortable feelings and emotions.

In wholistic way — all that bothers us — are the areas of development that helps us grow into a better human being in profession, social, interpersonal relationship etc. etc.

In this article we will go through simple, implementable and easy to bring into your habits — steps of dealing with everyday Frustrations, Upsets and Disappointments.

The negative ways to overcome or handle frustrations and disappointments

1. Eating binge

2. Shopping splurge

3. Smoking, drinking, drugs

4. Ignoring

5. Taking our frustrations on the hapless person to be around us

6. Blaming ourselves

7. Berating ourselves

8. Gambling or risking without thinking

9. Having one-night stand or fling

These negative methods never work in long term — in fact these methods actually make us feel worse, unhappier, more stressed etc. [although initially and temporarily they may make us feel distracted to give us the illusion of feeling better].

And If we continue to seek comfort in these things — we get trapped in the vicious the cycle — which may lead to more dangerous emotional and psychological conditions eventually.

Sometimes we may know that these are harmful — yet — we use them because these the only ways we know of comforting ourselves.

50+ Effective ways to handle daily disappointments, frustrations and upsets

1. Understanding that living in Denial Does Not Remove Disappointment

2. Learning to Be aware — through

A. Identify the reason you are feeling bad — because “……” did not happen or “…..” did happen

B. Accept that you are feeling bad

C. Feeling the pain or any unresourceful emotion that is making you feel disappointed

D. Understanding and accepting that feeling disappointed and frustrated is okay — but Victim mentality is not at all okay

3. Putting yourself in a better or resourceful mental state — through

A. Immediate changing of mental/emotional* state

B. Applying Little long-term techniques for feeling good

C. Creating Healthy habits* for future handling

D. Detaching yourself from your desire AND objectively identifying which part of your expectation(s) are causing these unresourceful emotions

E. Reframing* your perceptions — example — you were expecting 99% after studying hard for a paper — but you got say 92% — So you feel disappointed. Here, your perception that studying hard = getting 99% might be misplaced as maybe you did not study the right way or that you studied the wrong chapters or that you studied without understanding the subject

4. Understand that the outcome is not a setback — maybe you may need to improvise your methods or change your approach to get the results you want

5. Focus on doing the best you can and giving your 100%*

6. Learning to Let Things Go*

7. Remember your being disappointed — does not make you a disappointment

8. Understand that when we stretch beyond our comfort zones — disappointment will happen

9. Refocus on moving on from the point you are at present with what you still got

10. Adjust your expectations of perfection* — to that of excellence* and that of continuous improvement — for full read https://successunlimited-mantra.com/index.php/blog/handling-disappointment-upset-frustration-of-daily-life