Why we lose our interest hopes zeal in life and what to do to get it back
In this article you will learn the following
-48 reasons why you lose your zeal, interest and enthusiasm — most of these could be within your area of control — if you take the right steps and seek other’s help
-12 reasons for loss of interest in your important relationships
-48 ideas on — how to keep your enthusiasm alive and rekindle your interest and what can you do to go on after your enthusiasm wears-off
Did it ever happened to you — that you started a project with very high motivation, enthusiasm, energy, hope and intent — but lost your zeal within a short while.
Instances of losing your energy, will and focus — the following list can go on and on — please tick what resonates with you from the following — you can also add what is exclusively your happenstance — all of these and more happens to me so frequently — that I have stopped counting.
1. You may find that you lack energy in taking action and doing what is most essential tasks
2. You have picked up a goal — like exercising, going to gym, learning to play musical instruments or learning martial-arts, learning a new language etc. On getting inspired by someone
3. You have an idea which makes you very-very excited — but when you go into action mode — the magnanimity of actions and the time it would takes — makes you overwhelmed and you give up
4. You started with certain assumptions about the type and quantum of work — of a project — but — then it became so complex that your initial motivation waned
5. You go to a workshop or seminar and return with full of enthusiasm and actions that you are going to take — but after a few days — you have forgotten all about this resolve of yours
6. You may discover that your initial euphoria evaporates — as it was due to some wishful-thinking [I call this phenomenon the Bruce-Lee effect — after what happened to me — way back when “Enter the Dragon” movie was released — immediately after coming out of movie-hall — I felt if I see anyone doing something wrong or if someone attacks me how I will beat the sh*t out of them]
Loss of interest is not always necessarily linked to a mental disorder — but can create a cycle from which you may find it very hard to break-free from.
Please understand that — enthusiasm can only help you start a new project or a plan like the 1st gear in your car — which helps move the car but cannot be used to drive it later.
To sustain and maintain your resolve, focus and determination and also to sail through boring as well as challenging phases — you need to strengthen your inner strength, stamina and the power of your purpose.
48 reasons why you lose your zeal, interest and enthusiasm — most of these could be within your area of control — if you take the right steps and seek other’s help
1. You may have not fully understood — your real interest and hence on discovering the real-thing lost interest
2. Your priorities might have changed
3. Your situation have been altered so as to make this insignificant
4. You found some very meaningful and purposeful goal
5. You found something more attractive and interesting
6. It could also be due to your personality, attitude and mindset of losing interest fast
7. You may also lack the habit of disciplined follow-through
8. You were forced to take-up this goal against your will
9. Your focus is skewed — you might be focusing on temporary gratifications like fame, power, recognition, money etc. And not on your core values
10. Maybe you are in a profession or job — which is not aligned with your interests, goals and personality
11. You are living and doing things to please others
12. You look for approval and validation from others — too much
13. You are overworked
14. You have not taken vacations and breaks
15. You ae stuck in a rut
16. You are not learning anything new
17. You are doing things the same way — you have been doing since long
18. You are resisting change
19. You are too comfortable in your comfort zones
20. You are into toxic or dead relationships
21. You are not doing things that used to interests you a lot
22. You are not socializing at all
23. You have abandoned self-care
24. You have taken too much responsibility and it feels like huge burden
25. Your whys of doing things are not clear and inspiring enough
26. You have an unhealthy lifestyle
27. You are afraid to ask for help
28. Your have used your willpower too much to make it lose its power
29. You are wasting energy on less crucial tasks
30. You are ready for something new
31. You don’t feel valued
32. You are emotionally exhausted
33. You have too much shackles limiting autonomy
34. You are focusing only on the negative
35. Because of your burnout — you stopped pushing yourself and you are not aiming high enough
36. You are acting on very short-term objectives with no larger vision
37. You don’t have or don’t see any growth and development opportunities
38. You are involved in perpetual conflict
39. You have unrealistic workload
40. You are bored with your routine
41. You feel as if you are incapable of making a difference
42. You are feeling stressed about your current work load
43. You compare yourself with others — in orange and banana comparison
44. You have gone through a grieving or traumatic experience recently — emotionally-physically-mentally healthy people will bounce back from these in 6–9 months’ time. But if someone has not been able to — then they have to seek expert medical help from qualified and experience professionals
45. Financial setbacks of mammoth proportions
46. Job loss and not getting another job
47. You are tired of old mental roadmaps and lost your purpose and have strayed away from your passion pursuits
48. You lack patience
Few medical reasons — that might be triggering your loss of interest, zeal, motivations, inspirations and hopes — many of the following are treatable and few others are manageable
1. Disorders like — CFS, Auto immune disorder, POIS etc.
2. Psychological causes like — depression, sad, bipolar and schizophrenia etc.
3. Sleep disorders — like insomnia, over-sleeping, or other sleep disturbances
4. Social-phobias
5. Symptoms you need to pay attention and seek medical help — if you feel happening continuously for more than 30 days
I. Sadness, hopelessness, emptiness, or tearfulness
II. Outbursts of anger, irritability, or frustration — without any reason or over minor occurrences
III. Loss of interest in activities you used to enjoy
IV. Prolonged tiredness and lack of energy such that small tasks require a lot of effort
V. Loss of appetite or unexplained increased appetite or cravings which is lead to weight gain and obesity
VI. Restlessness
VII. Slowed thinking, speaking, or body movements
VIII. Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
IX. Fixation on past failures or self-blame
X. Difficulty thinking or concentrating, making decisions, and remembering things
XI. Frequent or repeated thoughts of death or suicide
XII. Suicidal actions
XIII. Unexplained physical ailments such as headaches or back pain
12 reasons for loss of interest in your important relationships
1. You may have lost interest in your relationship — if you recently realized that you and your partner’s values differ in a major way
2. Your feelings for your partner might have changed and you are seeing them in a new way
3. You may have been subtly feeling this way for a while — but not feeling like having honest conversation with your partner
4. You might be entertaining the idea that it might be time to end the relationship.
5. You or they have found someone more interesting
6. You or they don’t feel intimate with them
7. You fight over every little thing
8. Your or their emotional insecurity — which has got nothing to do with you
9. You are trying to force love
10. You or they are finding other people more attractive
11. You may find your partners utterly annoying at times
12. Toxicity or violence in relationship
48 ideas on — how to keep your enthusiasm alive and rekindle your interest and what can you do to go on after your enthusiasm wears-off — what can you do to go on after your enthusiasm wears-off
1. Each tip may not be for you, but try and find at least one that you can start practicing
2. All the following tips [especially the single sentence advice have detailed 3000+ do-it-yourself blogs, articles and answers in my both the websites as well as in my Quora page]
3. Identify whether your this mental state is disinterest or avoidance?
4. Although easier said than done — use your common sense to evaluate by measuring your interest and drive to avoid frustrations later — you need to be certain that it is not just a temporary whim -before investing time and effort in any new project
5. You need to accept the fact that everything worthwhile needs sustained periods of hard-work, sacrificing certain pleasures and also doing things that you may not find interesting — and during this cycle — you will also come across highly boring, demotivating and challenging tasks that you must do
6. In many goals only through persistence and that too after a long time — you will start to notice progress and growth as well as change taking place — but this may not happen till you have bounced back from few failures and course-corrected few mistakes — but as you see that you are making progress, your motivation and enthusiasm would grow
7. You have learn to nurture and replenish your willpower — and us this at strategically crucial times of critical importance
8. You need to work on — how to create laser-sharp focus and concentration for all the important goals and tasks
9. You also have to build great discipline of mind and emotions
10. You need to schedule brain as well as physical exercises to create emotional-mental-physical wellbeing and also to improve your mood and decreasing the symptoms of depression[even going for a brisk walk each day can help]
11. Get enough rest, relaxation and sleep
12. Learn and practice good sleep habits
13. Find out whether the hugeness of task is making you lose your enthusiasm — if so — break the goal into small-small tasks and milestones
This article was originally published as “50 tips if you have lost your interests, drive and hopes” in https://successunlimited-mantra.com/index.php/blog [1st]for more than 3000+ blogs, articles and answers on creating metamorphosis in every aspect of your life — personal, professional, business, mental, emotional, social, relationships — please visit all three links http://relationshipandhappiness.com/ [2nd] and https://www.quora.com/profile/Subhashis-Banerji [3rd]
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